From recent correspondence, in response to a request for some old documents I wrote regarding the writings of a certain Gaudiya Matha leader.

They are no longer available for a reason. The reason is that I don't feel their availability contributes to the spiritual welfare of the Vaisnava community at large. While there are many good points and valid observations made in these two documents, what people generally do with them is not to my liking. Given that I wrote my notes while being myself in a period of transition, I feel there are also attitudes portrayed there that I would no longer endorse as beneficial.

Being preoccupied with the flaws of others is not edifying for a sadhaka. Where one perceives flaws, from there one should keep a respectful distance. What is the meaning of a respectful distance, or the meaning of respecting from a distance? It means that you should go as far as it takes for you to be able to maintain a respectful attitude. We gain nothing from fostering disrespect in our hearts, it does nothing but eat our bhajana away, mouthful by mouthful.

If you meet people who you feel might be interested in the path you pursue, rather offer them prospects of the positive fruits of the path. No-one should choose a particular path just because the other alternatives are defective or otherwise not to one's liking. Such an attitude, inherently laced with disrespect as it is, will provide no continuity for the future chosen path either – a mind inclined to delve on others' faults will find faults to its liking with no end, for it is the world of faults we're living in.

Where your heart does not feel at home, walk from there to a distance where you can feel a sense of tranquility and detachment from whatever it is that disturbed your heart, and from there offer respects from the bottom of your heart in gratitude for whatever good was received, and then move on without looking back. I can only wish I'd have had the intelligence to do this myself, years back.